A Dad, a Son and a Baseball Glove

Our dad taught my brother and me to love baseball

Sixty-five years ago, when I was 9 years old, my dad bought me my first (and only) baseball glove. My Big Bill mitt was made of genuine cowhide and fit my hand like a glove. It was made by the Cragstan sports equipment company. I learned that my model was named for Bill Renna who played for the Yankees and Red Sox in the 1950s and earned his nickname from his imposing physical stature.

As Father’s Day approached this year, I retrieved my glove from the attic. Inserting my fingers into the well-worn leather, I contemplated the countless baseballs my glove has caught. Smelling the familiar fragrance, I realized that this symbol of my childhood has also caught a multitude of memories.

I remember playing catch in the backyard with my dad and my brother. Dad would throw Marc and me grounders and fly balls. I would pretend that I was Bobby Richardson, the shortstop for the New York Yankees and my brother would pretend he was Willie Mays, the San Francisco Giants centerfielder.

I have great memories of my dad taking my brother and me to watch the Seattle Rainiers play in the shadow of the mountain after which they were named. They weren’t a major league team, but they were a farm club for the Boston Red Sox. I insisted on taking my glove in hopes of catching a foul ball.

Another memory my Big Bill glove calls to mind is a big injustice I experienced in Little League. Our coach Mr. Steffenhagen promised that anyone who hit a home run would be treated to a milkshake. Well, even though I was far from the most athletic kid on our team, I succeeded in hitting a line drive into the outfield. Because the ball was bobbled, I made it home without being tagged. I was elated.

But when I asked Coach Steffenhagen about my milkshake, he told me I didn’t qualify. What I considered a home run, he insisted was a double at best. He said the outfielder’s error was the reason I’d made it home. I was devastated. But when my father heard what had happened, Dad made good on the treat I was denied.

That old glove also reminds me of how my dad maintained his perch on the pedestal of heroism. One day after school when I visited my pastor-father at his office, I left my mitt outside the church. When we were about to get into the car and head for home, I couldn’t find my glove anywhere. Someone had stolen it. I was heartsick. My treasured Big Bill was gone for good. Or so I thought.

A week or so later, my dad saw a couple kids playing catch near the church. He noticed that one of the boys had a mitt that resembled mine. He asked to see it. Sure enough, it was mine. My name and address on the outside pocket had been inked out with a ballpoint pen. I can’t describe the joy I felt when my dad returned it to me at dinner. I’m pretty sure I slept with it under my pillow that night.

My short-lived baseball career ended as a seventh grader when I made the Babe Ruth Division. My trusty Big Bill and I did our best to capture balls hit to right field. But, alas, our best was not enough to make the cut for the junior high school team.

Yet, in spite of my lack of ability, I remain an avid baseball fan. I follow the Seattle Mariners religiously. I guard my boyhood baseball card collection with my life. And even though I no longer sleep with my mitt under my pillow, I dream of the Mariners making it to the World Series this year.

Like many men my age, I credit my dad for a love of the game that punctuated my formative years and beyond. It is because of his influence that I have successfully passed on an appreciation for baseball to my adult children and my grandchildren. And while I’m grateful for that success, I want even more to pass on to them a love for their Creator.

A Father’s Blessing

Celebrating the greatest gift a dad can ever give his children

“The blessing” is the greatest gift
my precious dad gave me.
It said that I am special,
that the Lord said I should be.

Twas a compass for my future
pointing me to godly goals
guiding me to be most cautious
on the journey of my soul.

Dad’s blessing said, “You’re gifted!
Greg, my son, you’re most unique.
I see in you potential
in the interests that you seek!”

Dad said he’d always love me,
that there’s nothing I could do
that would cause him to rescind his love
even when my friends are few.

Dad’s blessing gave me courage.
Through his words I felt his pride.
And in Dad’s words I heard God speak
saying He was on my side.

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Reflections on Fatherhood

Greg Asimakoupoulos shares poignant memories triggered by this photo 

I became a father forty years ago this year. I’ll never forget the day. My wife and I were escorted to a labor room and left alone. Standing at Wendy’s bedside, my job was to monitor the baby’s heartbeat and the frequency of contractions. Depending on the severity of the discomfort, my job was to coach my wife how to breathe relying on the techniques we’d learned in childbirth classes.

Shortly after we settled into a routine that would likely last a few hours, I noticed the baby’s heart rate declined dramatically. I was obviously concerned. When the heart rate dropped with every sequential contraction, I raced to find a nurse. Within minutes an emergency c-section was scheduled and all the lessons we’d learned for a natural childbirth went out the window. As Wendy was wheeled into surgery, I’m the one who could have used help remembering how to breathe calmly.

The procedure didn’t last all that long, but it seemed like an eternity. When the doctor presented our newborn daughter to me, he explained why the surgery was required. The umbilical cord had become wrapped around our baby’s neck and with each contraction it tightened. Had I failed to monitor the monitor, our child could have easily been stillborn.

My first day of fatherhood was my introduction to what being a dad would involve over the next number of years. There is joyful anticipation of an unknown future. There is the need for being coached on how to “breathe” when the “contractions” of daily life take your breath away. There is the realization that normal can give way to abnormal without notice. That happiness can be trumped by fear with no time to brace yourself. In the end the good outweighs the bad.

That first day of fatherhood eliminated any illusion I might have had that my daughter’s life (or mine) would be problem-free. I was reminded of that reality four years later when my wife and I dropped Kristin off at her first day of preschool. After leaving our precious firstborn in the care of a stranger, my stomach was in knots. And as we walked to our car in front of the school, I noticed someone had backed into our station wagon leaving significant damage and not leaving a note.

No, a father’s life is not without troubles. And neither are the lives of those for which he is privileged to provide and to help guide. We do ourselves a disservice by expecting what isn’t realistic. Life becomes less hard when we recognize it is (by definition) difficult. No wonder that time-honored maxim by Robert Browning is this father’s mantra. A man’s reach should exceed his grasp or what’s a heaven for?

But lest I end this column on a downer, the overriding emotion I felt that first day of being a dad was one of gratitude and unconditional love. I had reason to be thankful. Kristin was born without complications. She was healthy. She was beautiful. She was mine. I was a proud father who cradled that miniature human being in my arms whenever I could steal her away from my wife.

I know I’m not the first pastor who has compared the love a father has for his child to the love our Heavenly Father has for us. But the firsthand discovery of that truth was so powerful, I was convinced this insight was something unique to me. I truly do understand how much God cares for me by the depth of love I have for my kids. Nothing (underscore nothing) can separate me from them.

“Behold what manner of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God. And that is what we are.” 1 John 3:1

My Dad was My Shepherd

Greg Asimakoupoulos and his late father

The Lord is my shepherd.
My dad was one, too.
He guided me when I was young.
He taught me to balance
when I rode my bike
and he held me the day I got stung.

Like fathers before him,
my dad punished me.
He spanked me those times I was bad.
But when I was bullied,
he comforted me.
There is no one who cared like my dad.

When heartache and loss
found me asking God why,
my dad could be found on his knees.
Beseeching the Father
in Heaven above,
he modeled how faith is the key.

And though far from perfect,
my dad helped me see
the value of clinging to grace.
He’s left me with snapshots
of prized memories
that time cannot ever erase.

Others Day

Is it time for Others Day?

We set aside a day each May
to honor dear old mom.
To let her know how much she’s loved
before she’s dead and gone.

We do the same each year in June
to tell our dads they’re great.
To grill a brat and drink a beer
and just plain celebrate.

Just recently it dawned on me
we need a holiday
to honor others in our lives
for what they do and say.

I’m thinking of the guys at work,
my neighbors, merchants too.
Baristas, mailmen, waitresses,
the one who heels my shoe.

Toll takers, teachers, dry cleaners,
a pastor, rabbi, priest,
those hospice workers, gardeners,
the not-well-known. The least.

You catch my drift. I’m thinking of
those people in our lives
who ease the burden of each day
who seldom get a prize.

They need to know we value them.
I think I have a way.
Why not a Sunday once a year
that’s known as Others Day?